Which Typical Marriage Model Do You and Your Spouse Fall Under?

Are you the romantics, the independents, the traditionalists, or the dramatics?

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Defining which type of couple you two are, depends on two things: your marriage model and the dynamics of your relationship. In order to properly asses your relationship, you need to find out both first. This assessment will aid you in grasping how to handle and better your relationship dynamics for your marriage to flourish and grow. 

In this article, we will discuss the models in which most marriages fall into. No marriage or relationship is the same, for sure with each one having its own unique characteristics.  However, there are basic outward appearances which create, roughly 5 basic marriage models. 

Find out which model fits your marriage the most and check "5 Types of Couples According to Scientific Research" to find out what type of couple you are.

Photo by: Chronicle Studios

THE ROMANTICS

Love is in the air and there is no care to anyone or anything else in the world as long as you’re together. This couple tends to do everything together except for the things they obviously need to do separately. The upside of your marriage is that you always keep it romantic, which is something that most couples struggle to sustain in long term relationships.

The downside is that you risk losing your own individuality and independence, which will cause the marriage to become stale. If neither of you has individual interests, you will have nothing to talk about and boredom will start creeping into your lives. Your relationship with your friends and family would definitely get affected, as well. 

You both need to give each other space. Make it a point to do something that you enjoy and take pleasure in on your own, at least once a week. Start contacting your friends again and spending quality time with your family.

THE INDEPENDENTS 

You are both too engrossed in your own lives, careers, friends, and interests that you hardly have any time left to spend together. Your marriage isn’t in any serious trouble, however, sometimes, it takes the form of a friendship, rather than a relationship because you hardly expect anything of each other.

Your relationship is EASY GOING because you’re self-reliant and self-efficient. Each of you is a tough cookie on your own and a master at what you do. You don’t expect your partner to become your whole life and you don’t depend on each other to feel worthy or valuable in life. You are individually grounded which is something extremely important to have a stable long term relationship. 

THE PROBLEM occurs when you start focusing on yourself alone and you forget all about being a team. You risk becoming disengaged and too formal with each other that you lose connection and intimacy.  At times, it even feels like you’re in a relationship with yourself instead. 

To avoid growing apart, you have to be dedicated to spending some of your time together. Schedule a weekly date night and do things together as a couple more frequently. Keep a balanced relationship; involve each other in your lives while also holding on to your individuality. A balance CAN be achieved. 

THE TRADITIONALISTS

This couple is more TRADITIONAL and could actually give off the vibe of a conventional 1950s family film. The woman here is most probably a housewife who dedicates herself to taking care of her children and husband, while the man is the sole breadwinner. 

The roles in this marriage are quite clear and frankly, set in stone, which perhaps makes it easier to deal with one another. What is expected is provided and agreed upon. 

ISSUES could arise when the wife starts feeling that she is the weaker party who has no control or power over the household or her life. She will start losing purpose and will eventually grow restless, tired, and bored with the situation. This could also have a negative impact on her self confidence. 

If the wife feels too dependent on her husband, then she could start looking for a part-time job or getting more involved in activities she likes. Focus on having and developing your individual interests and skills that have nothing to do with your married life. 

THE BALANCED

This couple is companionate with one another. They are more of a modern couple who is influenced by the social changes that have been happening throughout the last two decades. Their relationship is defined by friendship, gender equality, mutual understanding, and intimacy. 

They strive to keep a balance between having personal freedom, companionship, and equality. They give each other enough space for individuality and at the same time, they act as one team. They have a good level of understanding and communicating. 

The problem that could arise between these two wouldn’t probably be anything massive. But, some think that avoiding any conflict would be an answer to having a trouble free relationship. This could, in fact, lead to a lack of communication or worse, resentment. 

Be careful as to not let this relationship turn into a platonic one. Having personal freedom does not mean you get to do whatever you like in any given situation. You need to consider your partner during every step. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings to each other about anything. Avoiding trouble sometimes results in having more problems than you’d want. 

THE DRAMATIC

Pointing fingers all the time instead of resolving serious issues is how this marriage tends to be like most of the time. You are too dramatic and overly emotional when fighting.  Your relationship is like a neverending rollercoaster ride, what with having extremely aggressive fights, followed by over the top passionate makeups. 

The passion level is high, which could be a double-edged sword. You are both honest about your feelings and passionate about each other, which are two very important aspects of having a happy marriage. However, if you let your emotions control your actions all the time, your fights will be very frequent and ugly.  The drama and fights eventually take over the marriage and in most cases, it’s inevitable. 

Try to avoid constant fighting and choose your battles wisely. You must persist on changing the endless loop of this constant bickering before it becomes the norm. Stop and think first if it’s worth the fight and the heartache before you mindlessly jump into another terrible conflict that would gradually build a wall between the two of you. Practice mindful communication together. 

 

This article was inspired by author Caroline Tiger’s “The Newly Wed’s Instruction Manual”.

 

Edited by Nour Nasreldin

Defining which type of couple you two are, depends on two things: your marriage model and the dynamics of your relationship. In order to properly asses your relationship, you need to find out both first. This assessment will aid you in grasping how to handle and better your relationship dynamics for your marriage to flourish and grow. 

In this article, we will discuss the models in which most marriages fall into. No marriage or relationship is the same, for sure with each one having its own unique characteristics.  However, there are basic outward appearances which create, roughly 5 basic marriage models. 

Find out which model fits your marriage the most and check "5 Types of Couples According to Scientific Research" to find out what type of couple you are.

Photo by: Chronicle Studios

 

THE ROMANTICS

Love is in the air and there is no care to anyone or anything else in the world as long as you’re together. This couple tends to do everything together except for the things they obviously need to do separately. The upside of your marriage is that you always keep it romantic, which is something that most couples struggle to sustain in long term relationships.

The downside is that you risk losing your own individuality and independence, which will cause the marriage to become stale. If neither of you has individual interests, you will have nothing to talk about and boredom will start creeping into your lives. Your relationship with your friends and family would definitely get affected, as well. 

You both need to give each other space. Make it a point to do something that you enjoy and take pleasure in on your own, at least once a week. Start contacting your friends again and spending quality time with your family.

THE INDEPENDENTS 

You are both too engrossed in your own lives, careers, friends, and interests that you hardly have any time left to spend together. Your marriage isn’t in any serious trouble, however, sometimes, it takes the form of a friendship, rather than a relationship because you hardly expect anything of each other.

Your relationship is EASY GOING because you’re self-reliant and self-efficient. Each of you is a tough cookie on your own and a master at what you do. You don’t expect your partner to become your whole life and you don’t depend on each other to feel worthy or valuable in life. You are individually grounded which is something extremely important to have a stable long term relationship. 

THE PROBLEM occurs when you start focusing on yourself alone and you forget all about being a team. You risk becoming disengaged and too formal with each other that you lose connection and intimacy.  At times, it even feels like you’re in a relationship with yourself instead. 

To avoid growing apart, you have to be dedicated to spending some of your time together. Schedule a weekly date night and do things together as a couple more frequently. Keep a balanced relationship; involve each other in your lives while also holding on to your individuality. A balance CAN be achieved. 

THE TRADITIONALISTS

This couple is more TRADITIONAL and could actually give off the vibe of a conventional 1950s family film. The woman here is most probably a housewife who dedicates herself to taking care of her children and husband, while the man is the sole breadwinner. 

The roles in this marriage are quite clear and frankly, set in stone, which perhaps makes it easier to deal with one another. What is expected is provided and agreed upon. 

ISSUES could arise when the wife starts feeling that she is the weaker party who has no control or power over the household or her life. She will start losing purpose and will eventually grow restless, tired, and bored with the situation. This could also have a negative impact on her self confidence. 

If the wife feels too dependent on her husband, then she could start looking for a part-time job or getting more involved in activities she likes. Focus on having and developing your individual interests and skills that have nothing to do with your married life. 

THE BALANCED

This couple is companionate with one another. They are more of a modern couple who is influenced by the social changes that have been happening throughout the last two decades. Their relationship is defined by friendship, gender equality, mutual understanding, and intimacy. 

They strive to keep a balance between having personal freedom, companionship, and equality. They give each other enough space for individuality and at the same time, they act as one team. They have a good level of understanding and communicating. 

The problem that could arise between these two wouldn’t probably be anything massive. But, some think that avoiding any conflict would be an answer to having a trouble free relationship. This could, in fact, lead to a lack of communication or worse, resentment. 

Be careful as to not let this relationship turn into a platonic one. Having personal freedom does not mean you get to do whatever you like in any given situation. You need to consider your partner during every step. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings to each other about anything. Avoiding trouble sometimes results in having more problems than you’d want. 

THE DRAMATIC

Pointing fingers all the time instead of resolving serious issues is how this marriage tends to be like most of the time. You are too dramatic and overly emotional when fighting.  Your relationship is like a neverending rollercoaster ride, what with having extremely aggressive fights, followed by over the top passionate makeups. 

The passion level is high, which could be a double-edged sword. You are both honest about your feelings and passionate about each other, which are two very important aspects of having a happy marriage. However, if you let your emotions control your actions all the time, your fights will be very frequent and ugly.  The drama and fights eventually take over the marriage and in most cases, it’s inevitable. 

Try to avoid constant fighting and choose your battles wisely. You must persist on changing the endless loop of this constant bickering before it becomes the norm. Stop and think first if it’s worth the fight and the heartache before you mindlessly jump into another terrible conflict that would gradually build a wall between the two of you. Practice mindful communication together. 

 

This article was inspired by author Caroline Tiger’s “The Newly Wed’s Instruction Manual”.

 

Edited by Nour Nasreldin

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