What to share about your marriage and what’s best to keep private?

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How do you determine what to share once you get married? Once you get married it’s normal that the dynamic changes between you too, and between yourself and everyone around you. Things that happen in your household and relationship are now not only happening to you, but to both of you. This is why the things you would normally talk about with your girlfriends and on your brunch outings, or to your mother and family while bonding over tea, soon start to change to give your marriage privacy and space. 

We listed all the things that you should probably keep private and the things that are open for sharing based on your comfort. It’s important to note that for every couple these things should be discussed and are open to alterations based on what you and your partner are comfortable with. There is no rule book to how you should work around your marriage, just a lot of helpful suggestions. 

Intimacy

Some things are best kept private and the intimacy you share with your husband is the first and most important one. This is a bond between you and another person and sharing all the details or the goings on between you and that person with your friends and family is often uncomfortable and unnecessary. So it’s best to keep the intimacy and the details about it between you and your partner. 

Fights and Disagreements 

Okay so you get into a fight, and let’s say this fight brought up some disagreements or things that made you very unhappy with your partner. Choosing what to share and why you are sharing it is very important, for example, are you sharing to get advice about how to resolve the issue, or are you sharing to vent out? If you are sharing to vent out, then it’s important to be very careful what you say in your heated anger, because once uttered to other people it cannot be taken back. 

Read more: Why Every Couple Should Go to Marriage Counseling

Criticisms 

This is another sensitive topic that should be taken into consideration as well. We all have criticisms of everyone, whether our friends, family, loved ones, and our partners are no exception. In fact, it’s very normal in some cases that your partner would be the person you have the most criticisms about, but that doesn’t mean you have to let the whole world know that. Whether it’s keeping the shoes outside of the closet, never rinsing the mugs, or eating all the leftovers, if these criticisms are bothering you they should be brought up and discussed between you both, not everyone else. 

Inside Jokes 

Finally, we have the inside jokes, which are called inside jokes because they stay inside the boundaries and privacy of the people who are in on the joke. Inside jokes are important because they are reminders that you share humor and lightheartedness in the relationship. Once they are shared with other people or explained, they lose the beauty they had in the privacy they shared. Overall it’s important to discuss with your partner what to share in your marriage and what to keep private before anything. 

How do you determine what to share once you get married? Once you get married it’s normal that the dynamic changes between you too, and between yourself and everyone around you. Things that happen in your household and relationship are now not only happening to you, but to both of you. This is why the things you would normally talk about with your girlfriends and on your brunch outings, or to your mother and family while bonding over tea, soon start to change to give your marriage privacy and space. 

We listed all the things that you should probably keep private and the things that are open for sharing based on your comfort. It’s important to note that for every couple these things should be discussed and are open to alterations based on what you and your partner are comfortable with. There is no rule book to how you should work around your marriage, just a lot of helpful suggestions. 

Intimacy

Some things are best kept private and the intimacy you share with your husband is the first and most important one. This is a bond between you and another person and sharing all the details or the goings on between you and that person with your friends and family is often uncomfortable and unnecessary. So it’s best to keep the intimacy and the details about it between you and your partner. 

Fights and Disagreements 

Okay so you get into a fight, and let’s say this fight brought up some disagreements or things that made you very unhappy with your partner. Choosing what to share and why you are sharing it is very important, for example, are you sharing to get advice about how to resolve the issue, or are you sharing to vent out? If you are sharing to vent out, then it’s important to be very careful what you say in your heated anger, because once uttered to other people it cannot be taken back. 

Read more: Why Every Couple Should Go to Marriage Counseling

Criticisms