What To Compromise or Stick Too When Moving In Together?
March 18, 2021
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What To Compromise or Stick Too When Moving In Together?
Moving in together in often a process that includes a lot of compromise and adjustment. After the marriage and the big wedding, and the gorgeous honeymoon vacation comes the rest of your lives. Although while you're unpacking the boxes and moving around the furniture and fitting all your clothes in the closet, comes the endless question. Do we really need that? Where are we going to put it? Do we even have space for this? What if you really want it and they really don’t want it? We’ve come up with some helpful tips to make the moving in process slightly more adjustable.
Privacy
We hate to break it to you but now that you live together the only privacy you’ll have is in the bathroom. Beyond that you’ll always be seeing each other, whether it’s in the kitchen, or the living room, or passing each other in the hallway. You are essentially each others lives, which is why it’s important to establish boundaries. We’re not saying you should draw a line across the room, but really be vocal about how you want to go about each others privacy especially with belongings, alone time, etc.
Silly Arguments
Somethings will be worth it, others really won’t. Careful how you approach your arguments and discussions when you're living together, as it’s very easy for them to evolve and grow and something so small as the wrong fork can turn into something about never listening to the other person. Communication is key especially when you are living together, so if the fork is bothering you it’s better to talk about it in a positive, calm way, then to start yelling about the fork. Also if it’s not about the fork say that!
How To Combine Your Stuff
Arguably once of the hardest things to do, how do you mesh two people's completely different items to fit in one shared space. You compromise and adjust. Not everything you own has to fit in the house, and not everything needs to be thrown away to make room. It’s all about the things that matter and communicating what is it that matters and what can be discarded. For example, your collection of takeout menus throughout time might not be the most necessary thing to keep, but a frame of your grandparents is. It’s all about what’s important for you to keep and how you will also make room for your partner as well.
Read more: Signs You And Your Partner Are Ready For Marriage
It’s Okay To Be A Little Gross
Often debated a lot, it is okay to be a little gross. It’s unrealistic to expect your partner to be perfect and clean and at 100% at all times especially when living together. So slowly those expectations start to fade and reality sets in a bit and it’s very normal. From the morning breath to the unkempt hair, and the messiness from time to time. It’s all natural and bound to happen, so keep an open mind and let go of the expectations that are unrealistic and exhausting to maintain when moving in together.
Moving in together in often a process that includes a lot of compromise and adjustment. After the marriage and the big wedding, and the gorgeous honeymoon vacation comes the rest of your lives. Although while you're unpacking the boxes and moving around the furniture and fitting all your clothes in the closet, comes the endless question. Do we really need that? Where are we going to put it? Do we even have space for this? What if you really want it and they really don’t want it? We’ve come up with some helpful tips to make the moving in process slightly more adjustable.
Privacy
We hate to break it to you but now that you live together the only privacy you’ll have is in the bathroom. Beyond that you’ll always be seeing each other, whether it’s in the kitchen, or the living room, or passing each other in the hallway. You are essentially each others lives, which is why it’s important to establish boundaries. We’re not saying you should draw a line across the room, but really be vocal about how you want to go about each others privacy especially with belongings, alone time, etc.
Silly Arguments
Somethings will be worth it, others really won’t. Careful how you approach your arguments and discussions when you're living together, as it’s very easy for them to evolve and grow and something so small as the wrong fork can turn into something about never listening to the other person. Communication is key especially when you are living together, so if the fork is bothering you it’s better to talk about it in a positive, calm way, then to start yelling about the fork. Also if it’s not about the fork say that!
How To Combine Your Stuff
Arguably once of the hardest things to do, how do you mesh two people's completely different items to fit in one shared space. You compromise and adjust. Not everything you own has to fit in the house, and not everything needs to be thrown away to make room. It’s all about the things that matter and communicating what is it that matters and what can be discarded. For example, your collection of takeout menus throughout time might not be the most necessary thing to keep, but a frame of your grandparents is. It’s all about what’s important for you to keep and how you will also make room for your partner as well.
Read more: Signs You And Your Partner Are Ready For Marriage
It’s Okay To Be A Little Gross
Often debated a lot, it is okay to be a little gross. It’s unrealistic to expect your partner to be perfect and clean and at 100% at all times especially when living together. So slowly those expectations start to fade and reality sets in a bit and it’s very normal. From the morning breath to the unkempt hair, and the messiness from time to time. It’s all natural and bound to happen, so keep an open mind and let go of the expectations that are unrealistic and exhausting to maintain when moving in together.
