If you’re here reading about dealing with Bridezillas then most probably you’re a groom prepping his wedding and your bride is just going nuts on you. Your bride is demanding perfection from everyone, you can’t have a say in your wedding, and you’re being accused every day that you’re running away from your groom duties, does all this ring any bells?
We hear you; you must be very frustrated, confused, freaked out, and on the verge of exploding with anger. But don’t fret we will be with you until the storm passes safely and you’re at the altar in one piece!
First, congratulations on having a bridezilla for a bride! Second, keep on reading for your ultimate groom’s guide to dealing with a bridezilla:
-Who is a bridezilla?
A bridezilla is a freakishly bossy bride, who can do everything at once without any help, and who gets extremely dissatisfied with any tasks done by anyone else but herself. She gives you all these tasks then criticizes the way you’ve done them. She drags you from one store to another then accuses you of not caring about your wedding. She obsesses about details like table settings, centerpieces, and choosing every single item on the dinner menu.
-Why she becomes a bridezilla?
There are two reasons why a bridezilla is a bridezilla:
1- Society
There are certain stereotypical marriage traditions that take place in any society. In Egypt, mostly the groom needs to show up on the wedding day, he also gets to be a portable atm machine and a logistics man. The bride, on the other hand, is the planner and executor of the whole wedding as if it was her day alone.
2- She was born that way
Most young girls dream of their wedding day and wearing a beautiful white dress growing up. With some girls, the dream does not just stay it also grows. A bridezilla is probably one of those girls. She is convinced that the wedding day is hers alone. She feels that it’s her mission to plan the perfect flawless wedding. She would literally kill anyone who stands in her way or attempts to change her plans.
How can you deal with it?
1-Be like Zach
Zach Baron declared in an article that he is the bride; his bride didn’t care about any pre-wedding preparations so he took the wheel and loved it. Be like Zach in putting yourself virtually in your bride’s place to understand how she feels, and where her anxiety and stress come from.
If you want to read more about Zach’s story click here
2-Prepare yourself
Prepare yourself for any fits erupting all of a sudden. Be patient for there will be endless unreasonable and ridiculous arguments.
3-Become an audience
Be alert to whatever she says to you, for most brides complain about their grooms not paying attention to anything they say about the wedding. We know that most grooms do not care about color shades or types of flowers but showing her your attention by listening to what she has to say and giving an opinion on it will calm her down a bit.
4-Give a hand
It’s your wedding too! You have to get involved in a clever way that will make her feel you’re really putting in the effort. Of course, you must attend to all your groom’s duties but besides that always offer to do extra errands to make your bridezilla feel that you’re doing it for her.
5-L O V E
Most people marry out of love and each day spent together this love becomes stronger and it changes our lives completely. Remember that and do remember that loving her can change her to a better version of herself. So love her by listening, by sharing, by arguing, by laughing, and by getting involved and evolving yourself as well.
Yes, a bridezilla can be hard to deal with but it's not impossible, so let her be the boss for now for we all know in the end who the man of the house is.
If you’re here reading about dealing with Bridezillas then most probably you’re a groom prepping his wedding and your bride is just going nuts on you. Your bride is demanding perfection from everyone, you can’t have a say in your wedding, and you’re being accused every day that you’re running away from your groom duties, does all this ring any bells?
We hear you; you must be very frustrated, confused, freaked out, and on the verge of exploding with anger. But don’t fret we will be with you until the storm passes safely and you’re at the altar in one piece!
First, congratulations on having a bridezilla for a bride! Second, keep on reading for your ultimate groom’s guide to dealing with a bridezilla:
-Who is a bridezilla?
A bridezilla is a freakishly bossy bride, who can do everything at once without any help, and who gets extremely dissatisfied with any tasks done by anyone else but herself. She gives you all these tasks then criticizes the way you’ve done them. She drags you from one store to another then accuses you of not caring about your wedding. She obsesses about details like table settings, centerpieces, and choosing every single item on the dinner menu.
-Why she becomes a bridezilla?
There are two reasons why a bridezilla is a bridezilla:
1- Society
There are certain stereotypical marriage traditions that take place in any society. In Egypt, mostly the groom needs to show up on the wedding day, he also gets to be a portable atm machine and a logistics man. The bride, on the other hand, is the planner and executor of the whole wedding as if it was her day alone.
2- She was born that way
Most young girls dream of their wedding day and wearing a beautiful white dress growing up. With some girls, the dream does not just stay it also grows. A bridezilla is probably one of those girls. She is convinced that the wedding day is hers alone. She feels that it’s her mission to plan the perfect flawless wedding. She would literally kill anyone who stands in her way or attempts to change her plans.
How can you deal with it?
1-Be like Zach
Zach Baron declared in an article that he is the bride; his bride didn’t care about any pre-wedding preparations so he took the wheel and loved it. Be like Zach in putting yourself virtually in your bride’s place to understand how she feels, and where her anxiety and stress come from.
If you want to read more about Zach’s story click here
2-Prepare yourself
Prepare yourself for any fits erupting all of a sudden. Be patient for there will be endless unreasonable and ridiculous arguments.
3-Become an audience
Be alert to whatever she says to you, for most brides complain about their grooms not paying attention to anything they say about the wedding. We know that most grooms do not care about color shades or types of flowers but showing her your attention by listening to what she has to say and giving an opinion on it will calm her down a bit.
4-Give a hand
It’s your wedding too! You have to get involved in a clever way that will make her feel you’re really putting in the effort. Of course, you must attend to all your groom’s duties but besides that always offer to do extra errands to make your bridezilla feel that you’re doing it for her.
5-L O V E
Most people marry out of love and each day spent together this love becomes stronger and it changes our lives completely. Remember that and do remember that loving her can change her to a better version of herself. So love her by listening, by sharing, by arguing, by laughing, and by getting involved and evolving yourself as well.
Yes, a bridezilla can be hard to deal with but it's not impossible, so let her be the boss for now for we all know in the end who the man of the house is.
