Make or Break Fights before the Wedding

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Did you happen to fight before the wedding all the time? Did you ever consider breaking off your wedding because of it? How many times have you fought together these past few months or weeks? Take a minute or so to ask yourselves these questions and whether you should break it off or make it through. 

The important thing is to learn how to deal with such a critical and stressful period with all the planning and arranging happening right, left, and center. It’s crucial to understand the nature of every step and stage in your relationship to help you know how to deal with it most suitably.

Psychologists stated that relationships consist of two stages; the cocaine rush phase and the testing phase.

1-The cocaine rush: this is considered a very early stage where couples are floating high on feelings of excitement, focusing only on the similarities between them.

2- The testing phase: or rather the fighting phase, is where the couple starts discovering some gaps between them, appearing out of nowhere, that make them different from one another. If they pass through the testing phase, that means they can accept their differences, and that’s where they adapt.

If you are still stuck in the testing phase and you still fight before the wedding with zero solutions to your issues, you should really reconsider your wedding. Studies have proved that long-lasting marriages happen after couples safely pass through the testing phase and are still standing on the other side. 

Passing the testing phase means you get an A+ after getting a D; it also means that you have probably fought together so many times on so many different topics before finally figuring out how to fight good with your partner and deciding to tie the knot for good.

Read more: 10 Ways to Handle Your Partner’s Annoying Habits

Sometimes breaking up a relationship can happen when a couple gets stuck at the testing phase and at other times it’s because of the type of fights they usually have. Let’s just say you cannot fight over your partner’s bad breath and break off your marriage if s/he refuses to go to a dentist, this is not a bad fight that’s just a smelly one. 

On the other hand, problems can occur when the couple doesn’t share the same core values, ethics, and beliefs. Unfortunately, in such cases, the same problems and fights keep popping up at any given chance. You keep having the same recurrent fights because simply there is an unfixed crack in the relationship’s fundamentals. 

Still having different views is not a key factor for breaking up a relationship. The most significant question you should ask yourselves before getting married is whether you’ll be able to live with and accept the person you’ve chosen the way they are with all their flaws or not? 

In the end, marriage should not be based on two people who just happen to be madly in love, but who is also a support system and who complete each other in different ways. Fight before the wedding and even fight in general but have good fights to make and not bad fights that break.

Did you happen to fight before the wedding all the time? Did you ever consider breaking off your wedding because of it? How many times have you fought together these past few months or weeks? Take a minute or so to ask yourselves these questions and whether you should break it off or make it through. 

The important thing is to learn how to deal with such a critical and stressful period with all the planning and arranging happening right, left, and center. It’s crucial to understand the nature of every step and stage in your relationship to help you know how to deal with it most suitably.

Psychologists stated that relationships consist of two stages; the cocaine rush phase and the testing phase.

1-The cocaine rush: this is considered a very early stage where couples are floating high on feelings of excitement, focusing only on the similarities between them.

2- The testing phase: or rather the fighting phase, is where the couple starts discovering some gaps between them, appearing out of nowhere, that make them different from one another. If they pass through the testing phase, that means they can accept their differences, and that’s where they adapt.

If you are still stuck in the testing phase and you still fight before the wedding with zero solutions to your issues, you should really reconsider your wedding. Studies have proved that long-lasting marriages happen after couples safely pass through the testing phase and are still standing on the other side. 

Passing the testing phase means you get an A+ after getting a D; it also means that you have probably fought together so many times on so many different topics before finally figuring out how to fight good with your partner and deciding to tie the knot for good.

Read more: 10 Ways to Handle Your Partner’s Annoying Habits

Sometimes breaking up a relationship can happen when a couple gets stuck at the testing phase and at other times it’s because of the type of fights they usually have. Let’s just say you cannot fight over your partner’s bad breath and break off your marriage if s/he refuses to go to a dentist, this is not a bad fight that’s just a smelly one. 

On the other hand, problems can occur when the couple doesn’t share the same core values, ethics, and beliefs. Unfortunately, in such cases, the same problems and fights keep popping up at any given chance. You keep having the same recurrent fights because simply there is an unfixed crack in the relationship’s fundamentals. 

Still having different views is not a key factor for breaking up a relationship. The most significant question you should ask yourselves before getting married is whether you’ll be able to live with and accept the person you’ve chosen the way they are with all their flaws or not? 

In the end, marriage should not be based on two people who just happen to be madly in love, but who is also a support system and who complete each other in different ways. Fight before the wedding and even fight in general but have good fights to make and not bad fights that break.

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