7 Sacred Marriage Fighting Rules

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Come again, marriage fighting rules?! Is there such a thing as fighting rules to begin with? Fights are mostly an outcome of compressed anger, passive aggression, or intense emotions that come out for different reasons at unexpected or expected timings. Although hostile fights that take place between any married couple could defiantly lead to destructive and toxic relationships, healthy fights help to build a prosperous one instead. 

Here are 7 marriage fighting rules that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your partner:

1- Eat and sleep well:

Sometimes you will get that kind of vibe that says “hmmm you wanna fight today, don’t you?!” from your partner. When you get deprived of a good night’s sleep and healthy nutritious meals every day it will affect your mood drastically. You could find yourself picking fights for absolutely trivial reasons because you’re just feeling grumpy or pissed off at something you can’t even put your hands on. Simply dodge unnecessary fights by making sure you get enough sleep and enough healthy food into your system. 

2- Place a time limit for the fight:

Our nervous system simply cannot sustain being under psychological, mental, and emotional pressure for long periods of time. That’s why you need to decide on having a time frame of about 20 minutes for an intense fight or argument you have together.  After the 20 minutes pass by change the subject and take a break from fighting. Take your time in reflecting upon the whole situation then resume but this time with a clearer mind and more relaxed nerves. 

Read more: 10 Ways to Handle Your Partner’s Annoying Habits

3-Make sure your partner is up for a fight first:

Don’t insist on fighting if your partner expresses that s/he is feeling exhausted or too upset to argue.  If they are unable to withstand the pressure of an argument for whatever reason then you must back off and ask to talk about the subject at a different time. A fair fight requires both parties to be equal and ready.

4-Never fight in public

The most important Marriage fighting rule is you must never cross the red line of fighting in public. Don’t hang out your laundry in public because it’s just private and it’s not people’s business to know your marital issues. People will always be curious and your issues will be the latest news making the juiciest gossip that will go on for a while. Disrespecting each other in front of people will give a very bad impression.

5-Escaping conflict:

Some people think that dodging fights is the best way to maintain a stable marriage. However, this is just like a numbing drug that its effect will eventually wear off and you’ll be left with a handful of unresolved issues and chronic pain. The fear of facing your marital problems will only complicate things further between you. The more you bottle up inside you the bigger the possibility you will end up exploding with anger and frustration at your partner.  Talk about anything and everything right away before it grows into a vicious monster that will come back to bite you!

6-Focusing on the main problem:

Pinpointing the actual issue clearly will help you resolve it much easier and sooner without heartache and pain.  For instance, instead of saying that you were upset with how your partner communicated you can be more specific and declare exactly what was wrong with it. The best thing to do while fighting is to stick to the main issue so you wouldn’t find yourselves fighting about 5 different topics when it was only 1. 

7-Don’t dig up old history:

No one wants to hear what they did wrong a million years ago each and every single fight they have with their partners! Hatred and distance grow between any couple who repeatedly bring up past wrongdoings either one of them did. When you make up after a fight, leave it behind and don't recall it again. A new day is a new day indeed. 

Take notice that most of the previous marriage fighting rules require much work, effort, and will from both parties. Remember that your words and actions hold the power to build or break, so choose yours wisely. 

Come again, marriage fighting rules?! Is there such a thing as fighting rules to begin with? Fights are mostly an outcome of compressed anger, passive aggression, or intense emotions that come out for different reasons at unexpected or expected timings. Although hostile fights that take place between any married couple could defiantly lead to destructive and toxic relationships, healthy fights help to build a prosperous one instead. 

Here are 7 marriage fighting rules that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your partner:

1- Eat and sleep well:

Sometimes you will get that kind of vibe that says “hmmm you wanna fight today, don’t you?!” from your partner. When you get deprived of a good night’s sleep and healthy nutritious meals every day it will affect your mood drastically. You could find yourself picking fights for absolutely trivial reasons because you’re just feeling grumpy or pissed off at something you can’t even put your hands on. Simply dodge unnecessary fights by making sure you get enough sleep and enough healthy food into your system. 

2- Place a time limit for the fight:

Our nervous system simply cannot sustain being under psychological, mental, and emotional pressure for long periods of time. That’s why you need to decide on having a time frame of about 20 minutes for an intense fight or argument you have together.  After the 20 minutes pass by change the subject and take a break from fighting. Take your time in reflecting upon the whole situation then resume but this time with a clearer mind and more relaxed nerves. 

Read more: 10 Ways to Handle Your Partner’s Annoying Habits

3-Make sure your partner is up for a fight first:

Don’t insist on fighting if your partner expresses that s/he is feeling exhausted or too upset to argue.  If they are unable to withstand the pressure of an argument for whatever reason then you must back off and ask to talk about the subject at a different time. A fair fight requires both parties to be equal and ready.

4-Never fight in public

The most important Marriage fighting rule is you must never cross the red line of fighting in public. Don’t hang out your laundry in public because it’s just private and it’s not people’s business to know your marital issues. People will always be curious and your issues will be the latest news making the juiciest gossip that will go on for a while. Disrespecting each other in front of people will give a very bad impression.

5-Escaping conflict:

Some people think that dodging fights is the best way to maintain a stable marriage. However, this is just like a numbing drug that its effect will eventually wear off and you’ll be left with a handful of unresolved issues and chronic pain. The fear of facing your marital problems will only complicate things further between you. The more you bottle up inside you the bigger the possibility you will end up exploding with anger and frustration at your partner.  Talk about anything and everything right away before it grows into a vicious monster that will come back to bite you!

6-Focusing on the main problem:

Pinpointing the actual issue clearly will help you resolve it much easier and sooner without heartache and pain.  For instance, instead of saying that you were upset with how your partner communicated you can be more specific and declare exactly what was wrong with it. The best thing to do while fighting is to stick to the main issue so you wouldn’t find yourselves fighting about 5 different topics when it was only 1. 

7-Don’t dig up old history:

No one wants to hear what they did wrong a million years ago each and every single fight they have with their partners! Hatred and distance grow between any couple who repeatedly bring up past wrongdoings either one of them did. When you make up after a fight, leave it behind and don't recall it again. A new day is a new day indeed. 

Take notice that most of the previous marriage fighting rules require much work, effort, and will from both parties. Remember that your words and actions hold the power to build or break, so choose yours wisely. 

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