5 Things that Happen after the Honeymoon is Over
Suzan Magdy
May 26, 2019
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5 Things that Happen after the Honeymoon is Over
Brace yourselves, for some serious changes are about to take place!
The honeymoon phase (the literal one) is one of the best chapters that newlyweds get to write together, for it’s a time when the two of you get to put the world on hold. Add to that the fact that the whole marriage thing doesn’t hit until after you get back from paradise. After you make it back, new changes, inevitably, start to take place. Here’s a little glimpse of what happens to a couple after the honeymoon is over:
The new discoveries
Even if the two of you have been dating for God knows how long before getting hitched, there’s no way that you have your spouse 100% figured out yet unless you’ve lived together. It doesn’t matter how much you know a person because you really don’t if you haven’t shared the same living space before. Get ready to start making new discoveries because it’s going to happen. Remember, I told you so.
The “We will share everything” myth
Sorry to burst your bubble but sometimes, you’re going to want to have something to yourself even if you’ve already promised each other to share absolutely everything together! And that’s okay because 1. You’re human 2. There’s nothing selfish about that 3. This is actually healthy.
The in-laws
If your in-laws aren’t exactly a breeze, you’re going to have to figure out a way to deal with the whole situation without making a scene. Think about their occasional weekend visits, the fact that they’re going to be your children’s grandparents whether you like it or not, and your spouse’s feelings that you’ll constantly be hurting if you're always trying to avoid the people who raised him/her. You’re smart, you’ll figure something out.
The assumptions
No healthy couple in the entire universe just leaves the progress or regression of their relationship up to assuming things and jumping to conclusions. Instead of expecting your spouse to live up to your expectations, how about you actually use the most powerful relationship tool there is? COMMUNICATION. Stop holding back, if there’s something you need to get off your chest, talk to your partner about it!
The “We” not “I” situation
When two people decide to marry, they do it because they hate being apart from the person they love. Somewhere along the line, you might forget that you yourself are an autonomous individual with your own feelings, desires, dreams, and ambitions. In order to lead a healthy married life, you have got to find the right balance between the “We” and the “I”. The right partner is one that will help you achieve that balance rather than prevent you from trying to make it happen.
You always have to try and keep an open mind at the beginning of your life together because you are surely going to be tested. Your love will be tested, your bond will be tested, and the grounds on which your relationship is built will also be tested. Don’t let this manifest into a bunch of scary thoughts in your mind, rather be excited that the two of you will finally have the chance to prove your willingness to make this marriage work in spite of everything else.
The honeymoon phase (the literal one) is one of the best chapters that newlyweds get to write together, for it’s a time when the two of you get to put the world on hold. Add to that the fact that the whole marriage thing doesn’t hit until after you get back from paradise. After you make it back, new changes, inevitably, start to take place. Here’s a little glimpse of what happens to a couple after the honeymoon is over:
The new discoveries
Even if the two of you have been dating for God knows how long before getting hitched, there’s no way that you have your spouse 100% figured out yet unless you’ve lived together. It doesn’t matter how much you know a person because you really don’t if you haven’t shared the same living space before. Get ready to start making new discoveries because it’s going to happen. Remember, I told you so.
The “We will share everything” myth
Sorry to burst your bubble but sometimes, you’re going to want to have something to yourself even if you’ve already promised each other to share absolutely everything together! And that’s okay because 1. You’re human 2. There’s nothing selfish about that 3. This is actually healthy.
The in-laws
If your in-laws aren’t exactly a breeze, you’re going to have to figure out a way to deal with the whole situation without making a scene. Think about their occasional weekend visits, the fact that they’re going to be your children’s grandparents whether you like it or not, and your spouse’s feelings that you’ll constantly be hurting if you're always trying to avoid the people who raised him/her. You’re smart, you’ll figure something out.
The assumptions
No healthy couple in the entire universe just leaves the progress or regression of their relationship up to assuming things and jumping to conclusions. Instead of expecting your spouse to live up to your expectations, how about you actually use the most powerful relationship tool there is? COMMUNICATION. Stop holding back, if there’s something you need to get off your chest, talk to your partner about it!
The “We” not “I” situation
When two people decide to marry, they do it because they hate being apart from the person they love. Somewhere along the line, you might forget that you yourself are an autonomous individual with your own feelings, desires, dreams, and ambitions. In order to lead a healthy married life, you have got to find the right balance between the “We” and the “I”. The right partner is one that will help you achieve that balance rather than prevent you from trying to make it happen.
You always have to try and keep an open mind at the beginning of your life together because you are surely going to be tested. Your love will be tested, your bond will be tested, and the grounds on which your relationship is built will also be tested. Don’t let this manifest into a bunch of scary thoughts in your mind, rather be excited that the two of you will finally have the chance to prove your willingness to make this marriage work in spite of everything else.
